How to create what you want


How often do you pencil in activities on ‘Someday?’

There are 7 days in a week and ‘Someday’ isn’t one of them.

Saying you’ll do something ‘Someday’ is a cop out. It’s a way of letting yourself off the hook and not having to be responsible for creating what you want.

Taking action now is courageous, while hoping and wishing that something will happen ‘Someday’ is resignation.

Stop gate-keeping yourself with limitations like ‘when I’m a better kayaker I’ll go on that trip,’ or ‘when I’m in better shape I’ll take on that challenge,’ or ‘when I have more money I’ll register for that event I really want to attend.’

Here are 3 steps you can take today to create the life you want and reach your goals.

Step 1: Mark your calendar

Use your calendar and the days that are based in reality! If there’s something you want to do, put it in your calendar.

Studies show that scheduling an activity greatly increases your success in following through.

Which of the following statements feels more empowering to you? “Someday I’ll get enough sleep.” OR, “Tonight at 9 p.m. I’m going to turn off my phone, get ready for bed, drink a cup of chamomile tea and relax.” Which statement actually gets you on the path to becoming the person you want to become?

I hope you said the second statement! Schedule your action now.

Step 2: Commit – for real – put something at stake.

Is there a trip or an event you want to attend? Register now. Put your deposit down, buy your tickets or make that reservation.

Reaching your goals and fulfilling on your dreams requires commitment. You’ve got to be willing to show up for yourself today.

When I put my deposit down for a ski trip, the investment in the trip IS the motivation to get myself in shape and get out on the slopes. I have my best seasons when I have something to look forward to, and something that motivates me to work on my skills.

Putting something at stake, be it money, time or another resource will keep you accountable to who you say you want to be.

If you want things to stay the same, keep wishing and hoping for ‘Someday.’ If you want things to change, be courageous and make a commitment – today.

Step 3: Align Your Actions with your Commitment

If you say you want to improve your paddling and get more confident, but you never invest in coaching, then your actions aren’t in alignment with who you say you want to be. If you complain about not having enough time for reading, but you spend hours scrolling social media, your actions aren’t aligned.

Take responsibility for, and align your actions with your commitments.

I understand that all of this can feel scary. Leaving ‘someday’ behind and taking action today takes courage.

When I took a summer job in the kitchen of a rafting company instead of going to law school – that was scary! Each step of my journey I had to find the courage to align my actions with what was important to me. To schedule time to paddle, commit to following my passion and align my choices with who I said I wanted to be. Had I not found the courage to commit and align I wouldn’t be writing this blog post right now!

If you want to lead an authentic life full of experiences that are meaningful to you, start blocking time off in your calendar, make a commitment and align your actions and choices with who you say you want to be. It’s time to cultivate the mental agility to take responsibility today and stop copping out to ‘someday.’

What are you scheduling, committing to and aligning for yourself today?! Email me and let me know. I can’t wait to hear about it!